It is not what happens to us that we have to struggle with but our own thinking about what happens to us. When tragedy strikes or bad things happen it is natural that we feel pain, sadness, anger or frustration among other feelings, but it is important to note that thoughts are not the same as feelings. For example, if you lose your job it is natural to feel angry, sad or frustrated emotions. It is another thing to call yourself names or beat up on yourself with negative thoughts. The emotions will come the negative thinking does not have to follow. Replace negative self-talk with supportive affirming statements. We can do anything despite any of our shortcomings.
Ma'at (Erica) Lewis, Ph.D.